Hi There Friend!
I just wanted to pop into your inbox this lovely Monday morning to chat a little....I mean, it's been FOREVER...so what's been going on in your world?
For me, I've been growing bigger each day and things are finally all put together and finished waiting for baby boy to make his appearance. I've really been trying to slow down and listen to my body when I'm tired (which seems to be a lot as of late lol).
This morning I was pondering things and had some thoughts that I think you might find interesting.
How often do you feel like things are going wrong?
Is it super easy for you to focus on the things that are going wrong versus the things that are going right?
I know my brain totally loves to focus on all the things that are going wrong and sometimes it's like pulling freaking teeth to get it on the positivity train.
So anyways...I was sitting and thinking this morning about why my brain has been on the negativity train as of late and I realized something....
It's not that things are going "wrong".... it's that things aren't going exactly how I "want" them to go.....
Cue the bomb of awareness exploding in my brain!
What if whenever we think things are going "wrong" they actually aren't? What if things aren't going wrong...we just are feeling (insert negative feeling here) because it isn't going how we WANT it to go?
I think there is a huge and important distinction there because often times our egos love to convince us that external things are the source of our misery....whether it's people, events, etc....all things outside of us that are responsible for our negative experience.
However, we are the ones that are actually responsible for things feeling like they are going "wrong" in our life.
Here's an example just to illustrate what I mean...
Let's say you are up for a promotion or a new job and you get turned down. Normally, the rhetoric would be that the career area of your life is just going wrong right now....Cue the feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, and maybe even hopelessness or powerlessness because you feel like you don't have any control over the situation...maybe you even feel like God/The Universe/Someone must have it out for you...
However, it's not necessarily that this area of your life is going "wrong"..... it's just that things aren't going as you would "like them" to go.
Now, take the same scenario. Let's say you take the new viewpoint on it and say to yourself, "ok I'm feeling _________ because things aren't going how I would have liked or expected them to go." Instead of triggering that lack of control or victimhood, you still feel some semblance of power in the situation.
There is a very different outcome here....it stops the spiral of feeling like "oh gosh what is gonna be next" and like the world is out to get you....and instead, replaces it with a sense of "ok this must be happening for a purpose." Not to mention, still instilling hope that things will work out better than you thought and perhaps there are divine forces that truly love you and want to give you something even better.
Personally, I prefer the second scenario much more than the pit of misery the first one brings. How about you?
Can you reframe a scenario or area of your life where you feel like things are going "wrong"?
I know for me that taking my power back is a HUGE part of returning to positivity, love and hope...and my hope is that this reframe will help you do the same.
Life loves you...even when it doesn't feel like it at all....and I just want you to know that you haven't done anything wrong or anything to "deserve" any negative instances....
You are loved and life does want things to work out amazingly for you...sometimes it just takes a few twists, turns and road blocks to get you there.
Sending you so much love this Monday Morning!