I have a confession to make.... and it's time to suck it up buttercup and say it.....
I am a promise breaker....
Yep...you read that right...I'm a promise breaker. And not just one of those one-time Sally promise breakers...I'm a repeat offender. I know I know...gasp!
Here's the real kicker though....I'm the worst promise breaker, not to others, but to MYSELF.
I just finished reading Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis (side note: go buy that book...like seriously...as soon as you are done reading...go buy it!) and one of the chapters that really hit home for me was the chapter on keeping commitments.
It was like a very uncomfortable sucker punch to my solar plexus when she asked if you keep promises to yourself. Why? Because if I was honest with myself, I know that the first person I break promises to is to myself.
What has that lead to? That has lead to a fear of failure that rivals Trump's fear of everyone ignoring him. Was that too much? #SorryNotSorry
Not to mention a list of goals that's a mile long with not many check marks on it because...ummm helloo....no follow through. Cue the sinking feeling of guilt and shame in the pit of my stomach.
Sadly enough, I know that I'm not alone with this. The ability to break promises to ourselves seems to be a virus affecting many women on this planet. And what do you think that says to our subconscious about our worthiness? Our importance?
Ultimately, we end up putting everyone else first and then wonder why we are unsatisfied, unhappy, and crabby about our life.
Think about it.....What happens to that friend that always seems to flake on plans? Eventually....they stop getting invited.
So imagine for a sec that your goals, dreams, and imagination are that friend. When you keep breaking those promises to yourself, eventually your subconscious stops trying.
When was the last time you really allowed yourself to think about your goals? dreams? what you truly desired in your life?
When was the last time you dreamed big WITH the undertone that it was truly achievable?
I see so many women just going through the motions in their lives and shrinking their dreams. Failing to keep the promises we make to ourselves is the fast track to this kind of problem.
I mean, because your subconscious just figures "why bother" when she isn't going to follow through anyways....
I know this may seem a bit harsh but I wanted to share in case it hit home like it did for me.
After really stepping back and taking a tough look at this, I've made keeping the commitments to myself a priority....and boy oh boy does it truly make a difference.
Soooooo....if you are feeling a tad bit uncomfortable because keeping your promises to yourself is something not super high on the priority list....I invite you to decide right here, right now, to make a shift.
It doesn't need to be some ginormo commitment....but what is one thing you can commit to? What is one commitment you can make to yourself? What goals and dreams have you placed on the back burner because you "can't" follow through?
Start with just one thing. Follow through. Make the commitment to yourself a priority and you will be amazed at how it impacts your life in a positive way.
P.S. Want to make it public? Comment below with your commitment or tag me on social media so I can root you on!