Gahhh I can't believe that I'm already in week 15 of this pregnancy! Time has been flying by and baby is growing up a storm.
Matt and I (being the overachievers that we are) have already been adding things to the registry and picking out colors for the babies room. I'm super obsessed with the theme I've chosen and I know our little man is going to love it!
Now, that the first trimester is over, I feel like we have finally had a chance to really let it sink in that we are going to be parents. Sometimes it feels like such a foreign concept to me, while other times it will hit me and I'll be like "Holy crap! I'm going to be a mom!"
Sometimes it's tough for me to move past that "just do it" mentality that pushed me to workout when I didn't feel like it in days past, but I'm doing my best to embrace this new phase with open arms.
I like to think this is our little man's way of helping me conserve energy until he gets here....I'm betting he is going to be an active little guy!
I've also steadily been gaining weight and the baby bump is starting to show. This has also been pretty tough on me, since my prior mentality was always one of "if I'm gaining weight then my hormones must be off."
My confidence has taken a hit and that has been a big surprise to me. I thought I was doing pretty good in the body confidence sector but it looks like baby is showing me that I still have work to do! I've also been shocked at the amount of pressure and propaganda that even pregnant women face to look a certain way!
It's like...ok so you are allowed to have that baby bump now...but you better not show that pregnancy anywhere else....SO FREAKING RIDICULOUS! Apparently the goal is to not look pregnant if someone is looking at you from behind...total BS in my humble opinion. It's like...you can gain weight...but not too much. Society apparently still loves to dictate to us what looks "perfect" even with something so beautiful and unique as pregnancy.
So if you are a pregnant mama-to-be...here is me giving you 100% permission to start an unfollow fest and to put blinders on to anyone (aside from your doctor) that is telling you what you "should look like" or what's "right for pregnancy." Give the big middle finger to any posts that make you feel that you are anything but absolutely extraordinary and gorgeous....I mean...you are growing a freaking human from darn sakes!
I promise I'll stop the rant there but I do feel that there is some serious body positivity activism that needs to happen in the preggo mama industry and I won't promise that this is the last time I'll mention it.
At 15 weeks, I'm also in the awkward phase of my regular clothes not fitting so well and maternity clothes not fitting quite right either. Leggings have definitely become my friend and thank goddess for the comfy swingy dress trend!
Potatoes continue to be my favorite thing ever....although I'm very picky about the preparation....Fries and Roasted Potatoes only please...and thank you.
For some reason, I've absolutely loved and had no issues with potatoes throughout this entire pregnancy...any other food has either been a hit or a miss.
I'm continuing to eat veggies and fruits (although sometimes not as often as I would like) and I get unreasonably excited for our weekend breakfast dates....uhhemmm gluten free pancakes anyone?
Matt continues to be amazingly supportive and the total rockstar of a husband he is...despite his hectic work schedule and the puppy dogs continue to lavish lots of love when they can. I also continue to send loving energy to our baby each night and am slowly getting used to the pregnancy pillow.
I'm so grateful to you, dear reader for taking the time to support my blog and I will do my best to continue to share the simple, authentic, raw story of this pregnancy with you all! Until next time!
- Megan V.
Hi beautiful souls!!! First, I'd love to hear something fun you are doing for yourself this weekend!!
I've been reflecting a lot and will probably chat about this more in this week's morning chats but just wanted to share my thoughts in writing too :)
My husband and I had a long debate on pricing the other night. You see, I'm really committed to my mission of service before all and he challenged me on the pricing of what I have offered. (don't worry no sales pitches here...just my thoughts)
I think pricing is an interesting thing to tackle because I believe that it is important to feel adequately compensated for your work and to feel like you aren't being taken advantage of.....however, that can be a slippery slope of doom.
For example, the other day I saw someone who is new to the coaching industry charging $11,000 for a 3 month package and her words around her post and pricing were this "Because my package changes lives and because it's worth that!"......
Now, First I will tell you that my judgement kicked in BIG TIME...I was like...ummn wtf....you have no experience and you are charging that?! But then I remembered that I was leading from fear and judgment and I decided to use it as a talking point to see the lessons I could learn from that post.
The thing about pricing is that you may believe that your offers are life changing....but largely, when it comes to sales, it matters more what your customers believe about your offer.
And I totally get the metaphysical part of things....believing in ourselves and thoughts become things....but there is also the practical side too....and any coaches that are charging that kind of money (without the experience to back it up) are leading directly from the fear of not having enough money....service is totally lost...even though they may convince themselves that they are serving their customers.
Here's the thing....you aren't serving if no one is buying (aside from free offers of course!)
I saw myself in that coach....I used to be that way....demanding high fees simply because I thought I was the greatest thing since sliced bread ;)
But guess what....it was a struggle....because deep in my heart I knew that what I was doing was coming from my own money fears and desire for more more more.
It was this..."Oh the more I charge the less clients I actually have to sign annnddd the more I'm going to have that awesome success story online that will get more attention...and then I can sell courses for passive income...and then make tons of money and increase my prices...and next thing you know I'll be making multiple six figures!"
That was my thought process....and guess what?
I would get freaking pissed when no one would buy...or when I heard the dreaded phrase "I wish I could but I can't afford it"
We are taught that it's simply a money block and that "if they REALLY want to work with me, they will find a way"
To be honest....that made me uncomfortable. I didn't want people maxing out their credit cards, taking out massive loans, or begging their relatives for a loan. I didn't want to be responsible for putting them in a tough money situation...for arguments with partners around money....for all the pressure that comes when I know deep in my heart that I'm selling something to someone where I actually don't have control of the results.
I believe coaches have the ability to create massive change and breakthroughs....but we have ZERO control over what that actually looks like...AND if that comes out to our client making their investment back.
Sometimes I've seen that coaching is super effective and creates MASSIVE change but not in the money department...it's just not the right time for the universe and perhaps the client still has more growing to do and lessons to learn first.
And frankly....I believed that my clients didn't need to spend boat loads of money to "prove" to the universe that they were serious about making change.
Just a simple investment and true, honest, desire is all it takes...at least in my mind. And investment can mean of money, time, etc. (however I do feel investing money is very important).
So back to my conversation with my husband.....we talked about my current offers and pricing and I realized that it was still stuck in my past. I was using past benchmarks and that didn't feel right to me.
He asked me "What is going to feel better? Having no one purchase at $225 or just simply making sessions shorter and charging around $50 and having the ability to help more people?
And that shocked me....because if I was honest....I knew that the lower prices were what was calling me....why? Because it aligns perfectly with my mission to make this industry more focused on service.
Will I never raise my prices? Ummm I probably will! But, it will never be to the astronomical amounts that go against my inner knowing.
So I decided to change the pricing for everything here on my website. I still don't have an official sales page for individual sessions because there are multiple types that I want to offer people! However, I know when it's up that things will be a lot different than before.
I'm holding fast to my mission to lead from service....and I'm grateful to you for coming along this journey with me!
Sooo I have some big questions to ask you....and I hope you are game to answer because these questions seriously lead to some incredible ah-ha moments for me! The key is to be 100% real and honest with yourself.....you ready for them?! Ok here goes....
Do you 100% believe that the universe will support you? (be really honest with yourself here...)
And if you did believe that you would always be taken care of and supported, what desires would still be on your list?
Often times I see that when we really get true with ourselves, the desires we have (the large amounts of money, fancy stuff, etc) are actually stemming from a lack of belief that the universe will support us.
It's the fear that something will happen...or that we wont be supported that drives us to want more and more and more...
When I asked myself these questions, I had some serious ah-ha moments and breakthroughs.....
If the universe had my back and I believed that 100%, then my desires for large amounts of money were actually pointless....
Because what I truly wanted was to feel fulfilled, happy, and like I was living the fullest expression of me....
And those things really had nothing to do with making a specific amount of money....
Boy did my desires list become a lot shorter...
This isn't to make you judge yourself or for me to judge you if you want the fancy stuff....
It's merely just inviting you to ask yourself....why?
When we can see the desires that are stemming from fear and see how that shadow part that doesn't trust the universe (however small it may be)....that's when some pretty big clarity and amazing ah-has can come to light.
Each day is a choice to believe that the universe is going to support me....and it's not always easy....
But when we make that choice, it brings so much more freedom, joy and peace into our lives.
I'd love to hear from you! What comes up for you with these questions?
I did a full morning chat on this topic in my group this morning and it really felt so powerful! I'm going to post the full morning chat below in a bit because it was so good! I hope you truly listen and it helps you....I know these questions helped me a ton and lead to some really powerful change!
I'm sending you so much love as you reflect on these powerful questions!
- Megan V.